So that was the letter. Ultimately I know that I can "fix" nothing for these parents. The one thing that they want--their daughter healthy and in their arms--cannot be. Still I want so much to share with my friend what can help her since she asked...what am I forgetting...what else needs to be said? There's so much that I want for the world to know about being knowledgeable and compassionate when interacting with parents who have lost children...and now I feel that this letter needs to address everything! Ridiculous and way too loaded, I know, but it's like now that I have the chance, it's like words aren't enough.